Daring to Be Real: The Courage to Show Vulnerability

Even though I’m naturally nurturing and sensitive, I had to learn to be vulnerable in front of myself and others. It didn’t come easily, especially since I was raised in a cold environment. When people talked about vulnerability, I felt confused—"How do I do that?" "Where do I even begin?"

Is it easy? No. But vulnerability becomes easier once you’ve worked on your self-worth, acknowledged your feelings, and started aligning your actions with what you truly want. It’s also about being in relationships where you feel safe and supported by those who lift you up when you fall. Vulnerability is tied to self-acceptance—embracing what makes you unique and expressing your needs, intentions, and desires.

It can be scary for many reasons—you are choosing to put yourself out there with the uncertainty of being judged or not, the fear of getting hurt, feeling exposed, showing your "weak side,"  etc.

But here’s the question: Is vulnerability the real problem, or is it the fear of the change that follows?

Here’s the bright side: if someone pulls away when you show vulnerability, they might not be the right person for you. Wouldn’t it be better to know that now, rather than later? Vulnerability can help you assess the depth of your relationships and determine whether someone is aligned with the kind of intimacy you seek, whether it’s a friendship or a romantic connection.

True vulnerability means showing yourself as you are—flaws and all—and embracing life wholeheartedly. People can relate to you; they can connect with you on a deeper level, and connection is what makes us human.